Tina Tyler Blog
Open Letter to Gold Diggers Everywhere
*** this blog appeared on my myspace page in January, but I’d like to repost it here whnever you feel the timing is right for a second posting***
Open letter to Gold diggers everywhere
Current mood: sad
My journey has been a uniquely female one. From incest, rape, verbal, physical and emotional abuse to finding the inner strength to live a contented life… the life I chose. Now, before I go too far on this tangent, I do understand that men have challenges to overcome that are just as difficult for them, but as I’m not a man, I can only speak from a female perspective.
I have always considered myself a sex positive feminist. My early idols being Gloria Steinem, Cher and Helen Reddy. I was born in 1965, at the beginning of the sexual revolution, so how could I not be effected by it? I’m old enough to remember how women used to be treated and the fight is still very important to me. But I can’t help but notice that the futher we get away from the 1960’s, the less women seem to respect themselves. After all, wasn’t that the point in the first place… not only to gain respect from men, but from ourselves? To be as Oprah now puts it, “our most authentic selves”
For a couple of years now I’ve jokingly been saying that it’s Paris Hilton’s world, we just live in it… a statement that when it came out of my mouth was intended to be a bash on her sense of self importance, but in the context of feminism takes on an entirely new meaning. It seems the biggest lesson the next generation of young women took from the sexual revolution was the sex part, more specifically, how to use their sexuality to manipulate men. How is this empowerment? The women’s movement taught me not to rely on men to provide for me, to stand on my own two feet and learn real independence.
As I write this from my L.A. home, smack dab in the middle of gold digger central, I can’t help but feel innundated with weak willed women who are looking for a rich prince to save them. From what?!! Get off your lazy asses and DO something with your life… anything, just stop worrying about the Fendi bag and the Louboutin shoes and get a real personality already. Seek personal happiness and not a life of obligatory servitude waiting for this week’s allowance. While it may be just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one, the key phrase here is fall in love. Not a romantic fairy tale idea of love, but find someone who you can be real with and enjoy life with. Until that happens, may I suggest something radical? Try improving yourself from the inside instead of just the spray tan and plastic surgery, try reading a book or taking a class… or, dare I say getting a JOB?
As women we all know that it’s not that difficult to atrract a man, but what about keeping him around? Guess what ladies, it takes a little more than a boob job and good head to keep a man interested. I’m reminded of the old saying, “Show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I’ll show you a guy who’se tired to fucking her.”
So let me share some words of wisdom from women who came before you from the aforementioned Helen Reddy… read and maybe learn not to sell yourselves so short.
I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an’ pretend
’cause I’ve heard it all before
And I’ve been down there on the floor
No one’s ever gonna keep me down again
CHORUS
Oh yes I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
You can bend but never break me
’cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
’cause you’ve deepened the conviction in my soul
CHORUS
I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin’ arms across the land
But I’m still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand
Oh yes I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
FADE
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman
