When Readers Attack: I Fear I May Have Been Rude
When Is Enough Enough
Have you ever gotten to the point where you just can’t take it any more? I have been exchanging emails with some guy wants help getting into the industry for the better part of two months. That isn’t all that unusual. A lot of guys want to know how to get into porn and I have a number of basic guidelines for them, places to send them etc. This guy has been something else though. He emails 10-15 times a day, often asking the same question over and over every fifteen minutes until I have time to write back. At one point he asked me for money and equipment to get him started. I politely declined, but had to do so five times before he finally stopped asking. He has asked for contacts and I have given him a handful. He has burned at least one of those contacts by harassing my friend to the point where she refuses to talk to him any more. This prompted the reader to ask me to stop giving him “public” emails and start supplying him with private emails and phone numbers. I don’t do that for anyone, let alone a stranger.
I have bee polite, offered honest advice and given him whatever contacts I have and it is never enough. He asks about girls who have been in the business for a decade and then wonders why I can’t put him in contact with them. He asks to be paid BY the female talent for scenes to get him off the ground and questions why women won’t work at least for free with him.
During the last week or so I have been very busy with work, the playoffs and more family stuff. My answers to him have been shorter and his replies have become increasingly rude and more personally insulting by the day. So today I got a really nasty email from him that was out of the blue. That was just the final straw and I decided to do something I haven’t done in a long time. I sent him a rather curt “thank you, good bye” email and informed him that I wasn’t interested in helping him on his project any longer. I don’t remember ever telling a reader to stop writing before and for some reason I feel really bad for putting a stop to something I probably should have nipped in the bud weeks ago.
Perhaps I should have just ignored his emails…..
